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Twins and a toddler – will I ever ‘nip’ anywhere again?

Before having a toddler and newborn twins, I vaguely remember those days when I would pick up my bag, phone and keys, and walk straight out the front door.

Are those days really gone forever the second you have kids? We’ve all seen the Michael McIntyre sketch about how long it takes to get everyone ready, and it’s so true!

Having one kid means a big adjustment is needed in the art of house-leaving. Anymore than that and I literally don’t know how people do it.

And don’t even get me started on how people with babies manage to do the school run or get their offspring into childcare. Every single morning, when I’m still upstairs wrestling an infant into a vest at 9am, I think to myself that you’re all bloody wonder women. And vow I’ll get my act together in time for Toddler’s introduction into the education system). 

Routine with one toddler is relatively easy

When he was tiny I somehow got into a routine relatively quickly. I don’t remember ever being ALWAYS late for things (my friends may recall it differently I suppose). But f*ck me, this time round I CANNOT GET OUT OF THE HOUSE!

Toddler has always had a better social life than me. So we are out at different groups or playdates every morning. I didn’t want this to change when the Twins came along. I thought they would just have to be carted to and fro to everything Toddler did. Which is how we tend to roll.  

PIN image for getting out of the house with a toddler and newborn twins

FOUR hours from wake up to toddler’s swimming lesson!

What I’d not quite envisaged was how bloody long it takes to get everyone ready in the morning. How do you mums of four or five children do it? I take my hat off to you! I remember one morning it taking FOUR hours from me waking up to getting Toddler to his swimming lesson. FOUR HOURS, FFS? I’m going to need some serious advice from the school-run experts when my time comes. Or Toddler will be expelled for lateness!

Put simply, my biggest problem is the babies, and the fact there are bloody two of them. You don’t have to be Einstein to figure out everything takes twice as long. Apart from feeding them at the same time, I can’t do anything else simultaneously. Sometimes it feels like flipping Groundhog Day. Burping, wiping, changing, dressing, changing again cos they’ve just shat in the clean nappy – all twice.

But the thing I didn’t seem to (and still don’t) allow for? The whole rigmarole of getting in and out of the car.

Shit. The. Bed.

Toddler and twins car-loading is a nightmare

I wonder whether it’s even bloody worth it most mornings. I work up a sweat practically body slamming Toddler into his seat, and then traipsing back into the house (TWICE obviously) to get a baby in a car seat. Thank God for isofix bases, that’s all I can say. Then back in again to get my ‘twin’ nappy bag. Which can only be described as the size of a not-even-small suitcase, with all the crap I seem to take everywhere. More often than not, I’ve forgotten something desperately important. Like Toddler’s toy diplodocus or a corn on the cob from his plastic shopping basket he just HAS to hold on the car journey.

Every single day I think I can nail it in five minutes. Even getting everyone into coats/shoes/hats/blankets seems to take me longer than is humanly possible, FFS. And I’m not forgetting those (not infrequent) times when Twin One does a cheeky shit in the car seat and needs a full-on hose-down. Or Twin Two chucks up his entire bottle all over him, me and the carpet. It’s like they KNOW…

But what’s even more annoying than getting everyone in the car? Getting everyone OUT of the car the other end.

Get me out!

More often than not it’s taken me longer to set off than I actually spend driving. Then it starts. The ‘GET ME OUT!!” from Toddler, within seconds of me pulling into a parking space. He has to be the last to be ‘released’ from what he clearly sees as torture. Or he’d run off and be knocked down instantly.

A toddler asleep in his car seat

To be fair to him, the time it takes to put together a sodding double travel system complete with two babies, is even longer than five journeys in and out of the house. Don’t even get me started on f*cking carry cots. Has any baby in the history of the world EVER liked being in a carry cot?

None of mine, that’s for sure. But because we feel guilty about them being in a car seat for too long, we use them anyway.

baby twins asleep in their car seats

Is it even worth it?

Or at least I did, for about 6 days before I couldn’t bear the protests from Toddler anymore. And decided I needed to cut the whole car routine down from what felt like three hours to actually a nifty 17 minutes. Speedy, eh? Thank God he’s got that corn on the cob to keep him entertained.

I sometimes wonder if it’s even bloody worth it. But then I think of the alternative – staying at home with three babies..


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Did you enjoy that post? How about you read a few others while you’re here. I think you’ll like Three Under Three? Goodbye Fancy Car, Hello Box On Wheels, or 21 Hilarious Lies We Tell Our Kids. You can also find a whole of host of parent ramblings in my Mum Life section

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The Mad Madden's 14/02/2018 - 4:28 pm

Reblogged this on The Mad Madden's and commented:
The more I read your blog the more I think we are so scarily alike! In fact some of your stories and words could have easily fallen right out of my mouth! As you said before I wonder ARE WE actually the same person?! Lol 🤣 Keep up the good work. I love your blog…. Most entertaining 😘 xxx

Twins, Tantrums and Cold Coffee 14/02/2018 - 10:18 pm

Thank you – love yours too! Lots of mutual blog loving going on 🙂 x

Cooking with kids 15/02/2018 - 7:32 am

This brings back memories 😂. Fair play to you for getting out though, I used to avoid using the car as much as possible when my twins were babies. When I started my eldest 3 at preschool we were about 20 minutes late every day but by the time my eldest started school we had it nailed so don’t worry, it all somehow falls into place (though I still seem to spend a lot of time in the mornings shouting at them to get their shoes on…)

Toni 30/10/2018 - 7:46 pm

I can remember when my youngest was born and we needed to get to a wedding. It was an hour drive and so I fed the baby before we left. And as we are walking out the baby throws up every where. We didn’t make it to the wedding. What a mess.

Twins, Tantrums and Cold Coffee 31/10/2018 - 11:19 am

Oh no, what a nightmare! No matter how long you leave yourself to do anything, they still bugger it up, don’t they!

Unmindfulmama 31/10/2018 - 12:58 pm

I am in complete awe of you – I think I would literally just never go out for four years if I had three under three (with twins to boot), not until I legally had to take them to school at any rate! One thing I would say is that with my eldest I can bribe him a lot more to play ball, now he’s in Reception – so in some ways it does get easier – and by the time you get to the school run phase you’ll be an absolute pro! #itsok

Twins, Tantrums and Cold Coffee 31/10/2018 - 2:27 pm

It’s quite a lot of effort!

Nicole - Tales from Mamaville 01/11/2018 - 2:37 pm

Helen, your posts always instil a sense of awe and admiration on how you manage three under three (with twins!!!) and if I’ll be honest, also instil a little fear in me for how I will manage when Little Man gets a sibling. Said it before, saying it again – you’re a rockstar! And the fact that you’re at least attempting to get out of the house everyday should be applauded. Like Unmindfulmama said above, I doubt I would even make the effort if I was in your shoes. I’d just stick them all in front of an electronic device (#itsok, right???)! Great post yet again, and yes, once they’re older and more self-sufficient, things do ease out a bit.

Twins, Tantrums and Cold Coffee 01/11/2018 - 3:06 pm

Ah thank you, I don’t feel like it – shouty mum is more realistic a lot of days. But #itsok, right? 😆 There are plenty of times the iPad comes out (daily!) but I have to get out of the house every day or they drive me mad. My play dates are booked weeks in advance to make sure I’m doing something! x

Nicole - Tales from Mamaville 02/11/2018 - 10:50 am

Of course #itsok. The kindle comes out daily here too and I’ve just got one!!! Though I get you on the going-out part and playdates – an absolute sanity-saver when they’re small and need to be occupied 24/7!

Nicole - Tales from Mamaville 02/11/2018 - 10:50 am

Of course #itsok. The kindle comes out daily here too and I’ve just got one!!! Though I get you on the going-out part and playdates – an absolute sanity-saver when they’re small and need to be occupied 24/7!

kate - the Mum Conundrum 03/11/2018 - 9:13 am

Lady, you got double trouble and a toddler – its a bloody miracle you make it out AT ALL! Pour yourself a glass of wine, you need a reward! #ItsOK

Twins, Tantrums and Cold Coffee 03/11/2018 - 9:19 am

I can’t be staying in, I’d totally lose it!

MomOfTwoLittleGirls 05/11/2018 - 9:17 am

You are wonder women! I didn’t have twins and I still opt to stay in if I can help it because everything just takes so blady long! #itsok

Twins, Tantrums and Cold Coffee 05/11/2018 - 9:22 am

It does drive me insane, but I hate staying in with them all. If I do that, they’d just watch tele all day (3 year old) or trash the house even more (twins) so I ease my mum guilt by getting them out! It’s like having to take a dog for a walk 🤣 #itsok

Ashley 06/11/2018 - 9:29 pm

I thought it was hard enough with 1, let alone 3!!

Enda Sheppard 29/03/2019 - 9:49 am

You’ve just confirmed the value and existence of selective memory! I had conveniently forgotten about shifting our two around …the shivers racing up my spine have just stopped😀

Twins, Tantrums and Cold Coffee 29/03/2019 - 11:19 pm

Good to know I’ll forget all this one day!

Kirsty 01/04/2019 - 9:24 pm

I literally love reading your posts as it could be me writing them. It is restoring my faith in me to know it isn’t just me 🙂 As you know I am a bit further down the line with this crazy twin and singletons journey and I won’t lie to you the school run is a circus, but now that the boy are almost 8 and 6 and the twins almost 4 we have been on time for school for a whole term – woo hoo!! So my point is it does get easier – no less annoying, but less time consuming. BTW my top tip would be if you can go to a school in walking distance as getting everyone in and out of the car is always a shit show for me lol! Great to have you on the #DreamTeam

Twins, Tantrums and Cold Coffee 01/04/2019 - 9:28 pm

It’s so nice to know it gets easier! We bought a house less than 50m from a great school and my three year old goes to its preschool. We find out in two weeks if he’s got into the primary school. I’ll go mad if not! It literally takes two minutes to get there, even with twins in a buggy and stopping to talk to snails. Is it bad we bought the house 16 months ago basically so I never have to get everyone in the car for the school run?? (Luckily it’s a great school too 😂)


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